Being & Building Followers & Friends of Jesus
In my 12 Step program there is an acronym used that highlights WHEN we are most vulnerable to our addictions - HALT; i.e when we are H-Hungry, A - Angry, L- Lonely, and T - Tired. I find pride, self, and guilt as equal "conspirators" in unleashing my anger. The old saying that the best defense is a good offense applies. Anger is many times merely a deflection, defensive, distracting technique. Saturating myself with the Word, prayer, and fellowship with other believers have been the most effective responses.
I have found that a couple of the most insightful concepts on anger that I have discovered are found in the life of David. Hunted, living in caves, probably all of the HALT issues bearing down at once, yet he would not let his anger take control of his actions. Also, I have found that perhaps in our culture we are less apt to pray the imprecatory psalms, the result being that we are unable to take our anger to God and leave it with Him, so we go around carrying all of the anger that eventually leaks out in a sinful way. Thanks for the thread.
While some anger may be justified most often it is a response born out of our pride. An accusation or perceived injury provokes us to lash out in anger. A James 1:19 gut-check can help if we can take a moment before we respond. Quick to listen, slow to speak, slow to anger.
It's a principle that can save relationships and prevent you from compromising your witness.