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Last week, we discussed how members/attenders are the conduit through which the Church accomplishes its objective in the world – the Great Commission. We looked at how few of our members and regular attenders are actually disciples, exhibiting the key attributes of Jesus. We promised to talk more this week about why churches aren’t providing the level of depth necessary to build congregations full of disciples – and what they should do differently.
How Do We Make Disciples?
If as we’ve assumed members are the Church, then they are “insiders”, much more like employees of a company than its customers (“outsiders”). When a company hires a new employee, training is the first priority. Would a company consider a 30 minute presentation each week to be adequate training? What if it added weekly group discussions with fellow employees for a few months each year? Would the combination of those two be enough? Of course not. Companies know that proper training for employees entails 1-on-1 mentorship, group classes and on-the-job (OJT), in-the-field experience.
However, the issue with most churches in America today is simply (as we’ve maintained all along in this blog series, now in its 15th week) that few see members as the church (i.e. “insiders”). Therefore, they are careful not to challenge them to the point where they may leave. Since discipleship is hard work, costly and risky, pastors don’t push it on them. Churches provide “LITE”, easier versions of discipleship instead and nudge them toward those options.
As a result, most members and attenders are improperly trained to be effective ambassadors for Christ and His church. Pastors understand that 1-on-1 and group training classes led by professionals work best in business, but most consider those too demanding and risky to employ with members/attenders. OJT is also poor with most churches because they know members have little time in their busy schedules for living out Jesus’ model for evangelism (i.e. compassionate service as the door opener to sharing the gospel).
Disciples must be well-trained, but we’re not training members well. The Church today is feeling the effects – collateral damage from churches full of members/attenders who are generally under-equipped to fulfill the Great Commission (i.e. to pursue the real “customer”).
The Discipleship Process
- Conversion – This is just the starting point. It’s someone else in heaven, but it’s not a disciple. How many are still walking with the Lord, living changed lives, 3 years after accepting Christ at a crusade or concert? Very few according to George Barna’s findings.
- Relationship Building – Engendering trust through personal connections
- Discipleship – Intensive training
Small Groups Should Not be a Church’s Primary Discipleship Method
People come to Christ through events, small groups, or 1-on-1. Small groups are effective for relationship building as well, beginning the process of living in community with other Christians. However, as we said, when it comes to discipleship, no effective organization would rely on occasional group gatherings led by untrained professionals as the primary means for delivering the intensive training required for “insiders” (and once people come to faith, they are “insiders”). Successful, healthy organizations know 1-on-1 and OJT are required.
Yet when pastors are asked about their discipleship strategy, their first response is typically, “small groups”. It’s no wonder the Church isn’t growing, in number or impact. It’s not surprising that more members aren’t taking on more of the attributes of Christ. As long as churches don’t fully buy-in to “members ARE the church” they won’t dare challenge them to endure training at the same level of a corporate employee.
So Why Do Churches Push Small Groups So Hard?
Given all this, we have to ask – why do churches push small groups so hard? Do pastors really believe that’s the best method for discipleship, or is there another reason? As we’ve mentioned in a prior blog post, the most common church growth model today is “Invi...“. In that model small groups are the predominant method for the “Involve” phase. Small groups do help bring people somewhat closer to the Lord, but they also build relationships and relationships are “sticky” – increasing the likelihood they’ll come back next Sunday.
Each church should examine its own heart – is it promoting small groups more to get people involved (more loyal to the church) or more for discipleship (more loyal to the Lord)? If it’s the latter, then that presumes the church is very concerned about discipleship – but a church that’s discipleship-driven would certainly have additional, deeper methods of discipleship than just small groups. Our contention is that a church which sees small groups as its primary means for discipleship can’t be that concerned about discipleship. All churches say that building and sending disciples is key to their mission, but is that reflected in how they spend their time and in how willing they are to prod members in that direction? In business, goals and intentions often don’t line up with a company’s allocation of resources.
The alternative, pushing 1-on-1 discipleship, will scare off many of those who don’t feel like “insiders”. Leading a series of 1-on-1 meetings with another person over a long period takes a lot of time, studying and effort. And look what Jesus says about the costs of discipleship – possibly leaving those you love and being homeless. None of this is pretty when you present it as an “action plan” to the congregation! Yet if pastors know 1-on-1 is the best method for discipleship, then any hesitancy to promote it is further evidence of the tendency to cater rather than challenge, treating members as a “customer” and not as the church.
Why 1-on-1 Works Best
- The process of becoming a disciple is personal
- The best mentors in our lives were those who interacted with us personally, whether it was a teacher, a coach or some other role model
- People won’t say in public environments that they would in private/intimate ones
- One of Jesus’ favorite method of discipleship was personal questions, allowing for self-discovery, not just telling them the answers but letting them find them out for themselves
- Sermons can only cast vision around what it means to be a disciple and encourage them to take the next (personal) step
Assuming All That…What Should My Church Do Now?
- Pastor disciples leaders 1-on-1
- Those leaders then disciple a couple people each 1-on-1
- Encourage all discipled members to disciple others – OJT
- Sunday School – Resume this dying tradition, making sure it’s taught by discipled leaders
- Small groups – Facilitated only by discipled leaders
- Immersion Bible Study – One night a week (several hours)
- Greater emphasis on private devotion – The fundamental blocking and tackling of Bible study, journaling, prayer
- Lay out a discipleship track for members
This approach will quickly and exponentially grow a base of disciples who can make more disciples. This is a significant part of the turnaround strategy for today’s church. It was Jesus’ model. However, are we willing to chase members this far out of their comfort zones, knowing so many will leave our church and go to another one that will caters to them?
It’s Your Turn…
Have you seen churches where deep discipleship took hold to the point where it was truly part of the DNA of the church? What other effects have you seen from churches reducing insider “training” to small groups led by “untrained” members?
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